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How to “get things done” as a Projector in Human Design

As a projector, you’ve been told that you’re not supposed to “do” things.

But the common question after hearing that is “how am I supposed to get anything done?”

Let’s break it down.

1. You can do things, but you do things very differently.

Your energy is very, very efficient! The way you do something will be different than the way a generator does it. It’ll even differ on the centers you have defined as well. For instance, a Self-Projector will do things much differently than an Emotional Projector.

Doing things isn’t a problem. It’s sustaining the energy for doing that is the problem.

As a non-sacral being, the energy to do things, and what you do, is inconsistent. You’ll likely want to find shortcuts, minimize your efforts, and make things more systematic and automatic. All these are totally fine! There’s no shame in finding shortcuts (honestly, if there’s a simpler, easier, quicker way…why wouldn’t you?). There’s actually power in being able to spot the energetic waste and minimizing it. This is how you help the world become more energy-efficient.

The key to doing things is to recognize and accept that it’ll be different, it’ll be something you’re more efficient at, and it’ll be something that isn’t sustainable.

So instead of promising to work every day for 8 hours, find ways you can promise to get things done. Focus on the end goal or the project, not the time it takes you to do it.

I once worked with someone (as a freelancer) who wanted me to write blogs for her website to gain traffic. Anyone can do this. But how I showed up and did it was different.

I asked for ample time to complete the blogs (my timeline was a month and I asked to work ahead so that both her and I were happy about the timeline).

I didn’t set a specific time for me to work on it and I didn’t promise to have it done early. I knew I’d need to research a bit, rest, let the knowledge mull over, and then within that month-long time, I’d have rested enough to have the energy for creating those blogs.

In all honesty, it only took me about 2 hours, max, to write the 2,000-word blog for her. But I wasn’t being paid for the time I worked on it, I was being paid for the end result.

This is how you “do” things as a projector. This is one example of how you can reprogram people to work with your energy, instead of you working your energy to fit their needs.

2. Create systems and automations to help get things done.

Every time I wrote that blog, I got quicker at it because I saw patterns of how to save even more time and energy. I created a template, I found out when my energy was most ready to write it so I prepared myself for that time when it got close, I even had an automated AI helping me outline it sometimes too.

The little things that seem like they’re “not a big deal” to others, tend to be a big deal for us projectors.

For instance, when I was on TikTok, I found that the biggest energy drain wasn’t figuring out what to talk about, it was getting ready to film the TikTok. And that’s ultimately the reason I no longer post to TikTok right now.

It took me so long to set up my filming equipment in the way that felt correct for me, and to have to do that for every video, every day… HUGE energy drain. I didn’t have the sustainable energy for that.

So the option I could’ve taken to save time and energy would’ve been to have a section somewhere in my house that is 100% ready and set up for me to film whenever the mood strikes. But, me being me and liking my space to stay a certain way, I didn’t want to have it up all the time. So I didn’t and I chose to stop posting there for now.

Maybe someday I’ll return to it when I have more space and a dedicated area to film, but not right now.

Look for the ways that you can save your own time and energy. And see if these energy-drains are actually why you’ve felt resistance to being consistent with it or doing it at all.

3. Be consistently inconsistent and batch.

The last thing we’ll talk about is how consistency isn’t really consistency. Such as, even though you see someone posting consistently on their social media, that doesn’t mean they’re truly consistent in creating the same way.

What they’re really doing behind the scenes is creating a bunch of content one or two days out of the week (or month!) and then scheduling it to post throughout the rest of the week or month.

That’s consistent inconsistency.

Creative inspiration is inconsistent. The creative wave is inconsistent. So batching when the creative inspiration hits is the jackpot to staying publicly consistent.

Another example is that I’ve written 3-5 blogs in the last day or two. Whereas weeks have gone by where I didn’t really have much to say. But now that I’ve been in a more creation-focused energy, I have a lot to say, and I’m allowing myself to create whatever I want to create.

I know that I won’t post it right away, I’ll schedule it out. So I’m using the energy that’s here right now, getting the things that I want done, and then I know I’ll be resting when you read this.

That’s the beauty of batching and flowing with your natural energy.

It doesn’t have to be “on” all the time, you don’t have to “do” things all the time, you just need to maximize and leverage the energy you have.

That is how you get things done as a projector, or as a non-sacral being. Reflectors, manifestors and projectors can all use these tips to get the things done that they want to.

The difference is what your energy naturally wants to do.

Mine wants to think, formulate opinions and beliefs, gain knowledge, speak about my inner knowings and about myself, and be uniquely me. (If you’re familiar with the centers, you can see that I’m defined from the Head center down to the G-center)

So, what does your energy naturally want to do? And where does your energy go with the flow and show up inconsistently?

The first is what you tend to do every day. The second is how the universe shows up for you and lends you energy from around you.

How are you meant to “do” things? And how can you release the need to “do” things like everyone else, and start doing them the way you want to?

P. S. I worked with that blogging client for a few months before realizing I wasn’t truly aligned with the way she wanted me to speak in the blogs (Defined Ajna + Throat). And even though I got it done the way I wanted to, I still decided to let that $400/mo. client go so I could free up my own energy for something more aligned. This is a reminder that just because it works and you can do it, doesn’t mean it’s aligned for you. Always check with your authority!

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Energy Levels in Projectors

One of the biggest misconceptions I notice in projectors is that once we find out we’re a “non-energy” type, we take that as we can’t or don’t have energy for ANYthing.

Some projectors are energy projectors and some projectors are non-energy projectors, but this doesn’t mean what you might think.

So let’s dig into this to combat any misinformation you may have thought was true up until now.

First, what’s the difference between “energy” projectors and “non-energy” projectors?

The answer is: Not much.

Do energy projectors have more physical energy? Yes.

Does that mean that non-energy projectors have no physical energy? Absolutely not.

It’s the WAY you use your energy and how efficient you have to be with it.

There are 4 “motor centers” in the Human Design chart.

Motor centers provide stable, steady, and sustainable energy for doing things.

In order of how much energy they provide, here are the 4 motor centers:

  • Sacral Center – No projectors have this. This is only a center that Generators and Manifesting Generators have.
  • Emotional Center – Only Emotional Authorities have this center defined. So an Emotional Authority Projector has this center defined.
  • Root Center – This is found only in either Splenic Authorities, Sacral Authorities, or Emotional Authorities.
  • Ego/Heart Center – Any type can have this center defined, the ones that DON’T have it are Self-Projected Projectors, Mental Projectors (sidenote: mental or “no authority” types DOESN’T mean that the mind is the authority, but that’s a topic for another day), and Reflectors.

These 4 centers provide the extra physical energy to those who have them defined.

Therefore, if you have at least ONE of them defined in your chart, you’re classified as an “energy” projector. You can have any combination of them, but having at least one classifies you as an energy projector.

However, if you have none of those 4 motor centers defined, you’re classified as a “non-energy” projector.

I’m a Self-Projected Projector, so I’m technically classified as a non-energy projector. But as you can see, I have a blog, a podcast, and many other things that I do each day. So, what do these mean, really?

Like all types, you have more energy for the things you LOVE to do.

This gets frequently overlooked, but think about something you hate doing. How motivated are you to do it? Probably not very motivated.

Energy projectors have a motor center that they can TAKE energy FROM in order to “do” the things that they need to do.

Whereas with non-energy projectors, it’s MUCH more difficult, because we don’t have any baseline motor centers at the ready.

So practically, what do you do?

Like in all open centers, you take in and AMPLIFY the energy around you from those who have the center defined where you’re open.

So for non-energy projectors, just being around someone, in the same room or even on a call with someone who has a motor center, will help you get motivated and have a burst of energy to do the things you need to do. Because you take in that energy and amplify it.

But you may feel a “crash” after the person leaves, it could slowly fade or be more abrupt, it just depends. It’s kind of like a caffeine rush or a sugar rush.

The thing to remember is that you are not meant to HOLD this energy or sustain it. So having a detox at the end of the day, or consciously releasing the energy when you’re done is a cruical part of self-care. If you don’t release it, you’ll burn out.

And yet, at the same time, if you’re really passionate about something, you’re excited to do it, right? Yes! So you’ll find that you actually have much more energy for those things and thinking “non-energy” means that you can’t have energy is actually limiting you.

For me, I love to write. I love to sing. I love to dance. I love to learn things. I love to spend time with my friends.

And I can do all of these every day because I give myself ample time to decompress AND relax in between them.

I take multiple naps a day.

Seriously, like 2 or 3. And while some other people may see that as “lazy”, it’s something that helps me recoup my energy to continue on throughout the day. So F what everyone else says. Do what feels GOOD and RIGHT for YOU.

The only limits you have are the ones you choose to believe are true.

All projectors need rest.

As a projector, regardless of anything else, you’ll need more rest than others (besides reflectors). But whatever way and whatever level of rest you find rejuvenating, that is the right level for you.

I used to overdo my rest because as soon as I found out I was supposed to rest, I took it as an excuse for me to do nothing. But that actually still drained me and I was SO confused for a few weeks.

It wasn’t until I liberated myself from overdoing the self-care that I realized I didn’t need THAT much. Granted, I still need a lot, but not 24/7.

And if you’re a projector who’s thinking “I don’t really need much rest now that I think about it,” that’s totally fine!

Some people only need the weekend to themselves. Some people only need one self-care thing per day. Some need multiple. Some need mainly self-care. It literally doesn’t matter if you need more or less, there’s no right or wrong. There’s only what’s correct for YOU.

Likewise, some people get energy from rest, others get energy from being more active. It’s YOUR body. What feels good for you?

Seriously, toss out ALL the expectations and ALL the “standards” and really ask yourself what is right for you.

You will find you have more energy around others.

Like I stated above, open centers take in and amplify the energy around them. So you may find that you have a lot of energy depending on the situation you’re in or the environment you’re in.

Even if you’re an introvert, like me, others may actually mistake you for an extrovert in certain situations becuase you’re essentially riding on a caffeine high of energy when you’re around them.

So if you think you’re an introvert, you probably are. And this may explain why you feel so talkative or so energetic around others.

There’s even more caveats in Human Design, so if any of this doesn’t “fit” you exactly the way I wrote it, don’t get discouraged. Human Design is called a Living Experiment for a reason.

Experiment with it. Experiment with your life. Find out what works for you. FInd out what makes sense right now and use that. It may make sense in the future. You never know unless you try and test it out.

But if you only take one thing from this article, as a projector, you aren’t limited to just doing nothing. And you DO have energy. You just have to learn to work and flow WITH it, instead of against it.

Happy experimenting!

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The One Thing That Comes Before An Invitation As a Projector

As a projector, I’m sure you know the importance now of waiting for an invitation in doing what you do best — giving advice. However, if you don’t, you may want to take a quick peek at the blog post I wrote about invitations a few days ago. You can find it here.

But what isn’t talked about a lot is the thing that comes before an invitation, and it actually commonly gets misconstrued as an invitation.

I’m talking about… RECOGNITION.

What is Recognition?

Recognition is what you get from someone who truly SEES your genius and learns from you.

It’s when someone DM’s you and says “Thank you for creating this!”

It’s when your friend says that they love having you as their friend.

It’s when your teacher says they were happy you contributed in class today.

Recognition comes in many different forms, and just like invitations, it can be direct or indirect.

However, just because someone recognizes you DOESN’T mean that’s an invitation.

Wait, what?

Yep. As if deciphering an invitation wasn’t already hard enough, now we throw recognition into the mix.

But fear not, because I DO have a surefire way to help you decipher between the two going forward.

So let’s say that as a young projector, you’ve been told over and over again that the people around you don’t want your opinion.

I know, it sounds harsh, but a lot of projectors actually go through this.

Let’s say you are used to either getting backlash for trying to help others with your advice, or people try to ignore you now because they know you’ll try to tell them a better way to do something.

After years of this when we’re younger, we learn a few things that AREN’T true but FEEL true:

  1. When I give my opinion, I actually hurt others.
  2. If I reach out to anyone, they’re going to ignore me.
  3. I’m going to get rejected if I say what I truly feel.

Now, yes there are other things that we learn that deal deeper with our self-worth, but that’s a topic for another time.

The point is that we get so used to being shut down that we inadvertently have this complex in our minds that we need others approval before doing something — anything.

Enter, the Projector Paradox.

The Projector Paradox

The Projector Paradox is a term I made up, so you won’t find others using it. But let me explain why this is such a paradox.

Imagine being so observant to what others are doing that you could help them by telling them a better way to save time and energy.

Except, you can’t tell them because they haven’t recognized you — meaning that they won’t actually hear anything you say until they’ve recognized you.

But you still see it.

And they’re still wasting their time and energy.

What do you do?

Hence, the Projector Paradox. Which I guess could also be called the Invitation Paradox or the Recognition Paradox, depending on your preference.

The even crazier part here is that even if you WERE recognized by them, that doesn’t mean they’re open to your advice still.

Which just adds another layer onto the entire paradox!

I don’t know about you, but my head is spinning.

So let’s get out of the damn paradox, and find what we can do and what recognition is all about.

Recognition is your confirmation.

Treat recognition as your confirmation from the universe, (higher power, God, whatever you want to call it), that you’re heading in the right direction and that you’re on you life purpose path.

Recognition is someone else telling you they value you.

They value what you do, how you’ve helped them, and what you bring.

Recognition happens both before AND after an invitation.

We tend to speak about invitations and recognition like it’s a one time thing. But it’s not. We’re in a constant cycle of it.

Recognition happens, then an invitation, then recognition again, then another invitation, and so on.

Someone can recognize you for different topics you are knowledgeable about.

They can recognize you for different levels they didn’t realize you knew about those topics.

So, as you can see, recognition is NOT an invitation to give advice, but rather a gratefulness for YOU as a person, doing what you do.

What do we do with this?

As I’ve said, recognition comes both before and after an invitation. And there’s a way around recognition so that you can just continually receive invitations without needing formal recognition.

What’s that?

RECOGNIZE YOURSELF FIRST.

Yes.

Again, seriously.

Recognize yourself, your value, your genius, and your worth first.

When YOU recognize yourself, you’re CONFIDENT in what you say, what you do, and, ultimately, you’re confident in WHO YOU ARE.

Your energy is your greatest billboard. It speaks for you.

When you’re confident, you show it.

When you’re confident, you speak up.

When you’re confident, you allow yourself to shine.

And how do you become confident?

You RECOGNIZE YOURSELF.

The Projector Paradox 2.0

Another layer that I hadn’t told you yet was that you actually DON’T NEED others recognition.

You need YOUR OWN recognition.

And when you recognize yourself, you actually start to put yourself out there and you allow others to find you.

When you allow others to find you, you add value and bring impact to people’s lives.

When you add value and impact to people’s lives they want to invite you because they can tell that YOU’RE ready for the invitation.

Recognition is merely a step for you to show up and stand up to say “I’m ready for invitations.”

And once you really absorb and feel this to be true, you’ll start to see the shift.

Because all you ever needed was to recognize yourself first.

So what are you ready to be recognized for?

Recognize yourself first, and see what changes you make that then allows others to experience the you that is ready to be invited.

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On Consistency and Sticking to a Schedule

This is going to be such an unpopular opinion that I almost decided not to write this. However, it’s important for you to know, just in case you’re like me.

Over the last 30 days, I’ve made a schedule for myself.

My goal was to write a blog post every day, even if it turned out to be a shitty post.

My personal daily structure was that I was going to allow myself to freedom to flow through my days, without forcing myself to do anything.

Needless to say, I didn’t write every day. BUT it’s not because of what you might think.

“Laziness”

There’s so much collective pain and conditioning around “Resting” that it’s been labelled as “Laziness” when people take a day off, choose to NOT do something, or are sitting down to take a breather from life.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s a line between laziness and resting, but that line isn’t so black and white.

Mainly, speaking in Human Design terms, anyone without a defined motor center needs more rest than others.

And anyone without a defined Ego center doesn’t have access to consistent Willpower and Motivation.

What does that mean?

My experience

Just so we’re both on the same page, I have NO motor centers. And my Ego center is NOT defined.

So when I told myself for the umpteenth time that I was “finally going to be consistent”, I was setting myself up for failure.

Consistency ISN’T in my nature. It’s not a natural thing for my energy.

So though I was able to crank out a few posts at the beginning of the month, gaining a 5 day or so streak, I was so happy and proud of myself!

Then day 7 happened…

And day 8…

On day 9 I posted again.

Then day 10 happened…

Day 11 I posted again.

Day 12 I posted again.

Then radio silence for about a week.

And it wasn’t that I couldn’t sit down and write. I had all the time I needed. I had the availability for it. And it’s not like I was sitting around just watching Netflix.

But the thing was, my energy had moved on.

I was focusing on learning instead.

My energy went from exporting to importing. For no reason other than that’s what felt RIGHT. That’s what came easily to me.

Consistency is an illusion

Honestly, only people with defined Ego centers are the ones that have the energy for consistency. It doesn’t take too much for the Ego center’s motor to be turned into “on” mode.

However, every OTHER center, needs the right conditions.

Inconsistency is labelled as “bad” or “lazy”.

“Sometimes you just gotta push through”.

Insert any other “hustle-mindset” phrases here.

But why do you want to push yourself to do something if in the moment you hate doing it right then and you have no energy to do it?

That feeling of no energy and force is going to show through in your work anyways!

So it’s like you force yourself to do it, only to have THOSE things that you did be the ones you’re needing to re-tweak or re-record or re-write at a different time because you weren’t happy with the end result anyways.

Why not wait for the creative wave to come back around and then you just create as much as you want to and SAVE some for the time when, inevitably, you’ll feel uninspired to do it?

Creativity IS a wave.

And choosing to celebrate the down time is JUST as important as celebrating the UP time.

I didn’t stop writing because I had nothing to say

I stopped writing because what I would’ve said wouldn’t have been as good in THAT moment as if I would’ve waited until the right time.

I have more than a handful of things that I’m doing/learning/creating at any given time.

I’m not a Manifesting Generator (someone who can and is meant to be multitasking). But I have a need for variety.

The difference between us is that I have a list of things to choose from in the moment, and I’m NEVER doing more than one at a time.

There are days I sing and learn French.

Then there are days that I don’t do that but I work on my business.

There are days that I go out.

There are days that I stay in and rest.

I learn in my free time. Brainstorm. Rest myself. And prepare myself for the next wave when my energy comes back.

I find that I create better, faster, more efficiently, and more happily doing all of this.

I never get bored. And even if I did, I know my list to choose from or how to find new things to try out.

And most of all, I don’t get BURNOUT anymore.

Consistency Burnout

Be honest, how many times have you felt burnout?

Now how often is that burnout linked to doing things you didn’t want to do in that moment?

If you haven’t discovered this pattern yet, pay attention the next time you feel burned out!

It’ll likely be because of things you don’t want to do (i.e. don’t have the energy for in that moment!), a collection of moments that you’re forcing yourself to do something you really don’t want to do, or even forcing yourself to do anything.

The ONLY times we get burnout from things we actually ENJOY are when we over-indulge ourselves in them. So perhaps that’s a thing for you too.

But, my point is, pay attention to where your burnout comes from and where it starts. You’ll be surprised!

And guess what?

You have 100% control of your life to CHANGE whatever is causing you burnout.

There are ways around it, ways to uplift you during it, ways to work with it, or even just the good-ol “saying no” works wonders as well.

It’s not “Batching”, it’s “Conserving”

I used to HATE the thought of batching content or batching anything.

But honestly, it’s the bees-knees — WHEN IT’S DONE CORRECTLY.

Again, just like we’re saying no to forcing in the moment, DON’T force yourself to batch.

Follow your energy. Batch during your Ups rather than your Downs.

If you have a creative wave with actually putting out content, create a system to help you automatically do that.

If you need to batch your budgeting or your tasks, do that.

Do whatever your energy leads you to do. Cut the things that aren’t necessary. And prioritize YOU.

My own consistency change

I’ve grown to enjoy my inconsistency.

Why are algorithms more important than my own health? They’re not.

I already know that I will create what I’m meant to create. So then why am I pushing?

There’s no deadline. And with an undefined Root center, I hate deadlines. They don’t help me at all, they just give me unnecessary pressure.

I follow what feels right. What flows right.

And if I need a day of full-relaxation, that’s not a bad thing. That’s SO helpful!

When I’m relaxing, I have some of my BEST ideas.

That’s a trend in my own energy that’s reliable. THAT is MY consistency.

As well as I’m a morning person. I like my mornings, I get a lot done.

It doesn’t matter what I’m getting done, I just get a lot done that I need to that day. That’s also MY consistency.

Just because it doesn’t fit the standards of “normal” consistency, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

And that goes for you, too.

So what’s something you’ve been burning yourself out on that you’re ready to release?

What’s a way you’re inconsistent that actually works WITH your energy?

And what are your ways of being consistent that matter to you?

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Confused on What to Do? Here’s a Way Out

Confusion usually comes up for us when we are resisting something.

We ALWAYS know what’s best for us and what’s the right next step for us. We’re Co-Creators in our lives. We have the 100% choice on what we do and when. And if you think about it, when you finally decide something, how long does it take for you to implement? Not very long (at least as long as you don’t allow fear or worry to stop you, but that’s a topic for a different time).

Confusion, when it’s about our own path, seems like we need more information before we can make a decision. However, more information actually leads to analysis paralysis.

Because whatever you WANT to do will have information to support it. But there will ALSO be information that is unsupportive.

That’s why we tend to have confirmation bias; where when we’re looking for supportive information of our opinion or desire, we find it and take it as truth, because it was what we WANTED to find. We’ll go deeper into confirmation bias in the future as well.

But there’s a few things that can help you get unstuck or out of the confusion quicker than simply “waiting” for the answer.

Ask yourself questions to journal

We can’t process things completely in our minds — even though our minds like to think we can. But just check in with how many times only processing in your mind has actually led you to the right answer. My guess is that you either weren’t able to finish processing OR you got into overthinking and decided to either do nothing or you acted impulsively.

No shame, no guilt. It just is what it is and it’s the same for everyone.

So to get out of this loop, break out a piece of paper and get writing.

Transferring your thoughts to paper not only help you see it outside of you, but it gives you a new perspective on it as a whole when you can then process the information you PREFER to write down.

The way you write something is slightly different than the way you speak or think about it.

That’s why some people are speakers and some people are writers. Usually you have a preference of one or the other.

And if you’re a speaker and prefer to process out loud, find yourself a trusted friend or advisor to help hear you out, NOT TO INSERT THEIR OPINION, but to simply help you get out what you need to and ask you questions to help you find your truth.

This is actually a very big reason people hire coaches; because coaches (depending on the coach, that is) but for the most part, coaches are there to help guide you to your core truth. That’s at least what I do as a coach, because NO ONE knows what you want to do more than you. There’s just mental blocks or something in the way, and I help remove that block.

Anyways back to the point.

Get your thoughts out of your head. Whether that’s in a journal or with someone else who you can trust to help you get to your core truth.

What questions can I ask myself?

The questions you ask yourself heavily depend on the situation you’re going through, but here’s a few generic ones that usually work for MOST situations.

  • What am I deciding?
  • Why is this decision important?
  • What is my fear for choosing either option? (or all the options, however many there are, what are the fears for each option?)
  • Which option would I choose if there were no negative consequences and it went as well as it could?
  • What part of me is telling me that I can’t go this way or that it won’t go well?

Essentially, you’re going to be looking for any catastrophizing, any limiting beliefs, any ego fears for safety from perceived danger, etc.

You could even give these questions to your trusted person to ask you as well.

And make sure you’re being 100% honest with yourself as well! If you aren’t fully honest and open about your answers, you’ll be keeping yourself in confusion and just wasing your time. So be 100% open and honest with yourself!

What if journaling it out doesn’t help?

If journaling it out doesn’t help, there are either of two things that can be at play here.

1. You might not be 100% open and honest in your answers.

When you’re being truly open and honest in your journaling session, you can find the root cause of the confusion. But some people aren’t used to this type of deep dive within themselves yet, and that’s okay. If it’s not working for you, it may be time to get someone to process with you, such as a friend, a close family member, a coach, a therapist, whoever you trust to help you walk through the situation and help you find the blocks and remove them. Remember: without their personal bias or opinion.

2. You may be too close to the situation to see it clearly.

Again, this happens to everyone. There’s things I go to my coach about, and things I process through myself. It just depends on what it is. So if you’ve tried journaling it out and it doesn’t work, don’t blame yourself for not being able to figure it out. It’s normal. And most likely, it just means that you deeply care about the situation. That’s a good thing! But not being able to see it clearly and make a decision is even more important in these instances. So find some support! Call your best friend. Schedule a coffee chat with them. Do something with the person you trust and ask if they can help you process this situation.

I know there’s a handful of people that don’t like seeking out help, but let me lovingly point out that not seeking out help is actually limiting you from making strides forward in your life. Would you rather stay stagnant and unable to make this decision for an indeterminate amount of time? Or put the pride aside and ask for help to figure it out much quicker?

But if you’re still against asking for help, here’s another way that’s really helped me and my clients in the past.

Commit to a “Day of Total Presence

This is what I called it when I did this for myself the first time and the name just stuck from then on when I recommended it to my clients and friends.

A Day of Total Presence is exactly what it sounds like. Let me explain.

You know how most of the time we’re on autopilot going through our day? Or we get constantly distracted by social media, people, thinking about the past, worrying about the future, all that super fun stuff?

A Day of Total Presence is the exact opposite.

It’s where you commit from morning to night to be present in the moment of what you’re doing.

Where when you drink your coffee in the morning, you are solely focused on drinking that cup of coffee.

When you’re scrolling on social media, you’re focused on each post that you scroll by.

And as you go through this day, you don’t plan ahead. You just FLOW with what you want to do, when you want to do it.

Meaning mindless tv is out the window! If you’re watching tv, you’re focused and actually WATCHING it.

Nothing in this day is autopilot. At least to the best of your ability.

Why a Day of Total Presence?

When we spend too much time in the past or the future, we lose focus and meaning of what NOW is.

Except, everything that is reality is happening NOW.

So bringing yourself back into the present moment reconnects you to WHO. YOU. ARE.

Confusion is based on the fact that we don’t know which way to go. Which to some degree, means we don’t know who we are.

Think about it. If you’re a singer, you sing. If you’re a writer, you write.

If you’re the type of person who drinks coffee, you drink coffee. If you’re the type of person who hangs out with their friends on the weekend, that’s exactly what you do.

Confusion about a decision comes from not knowing which identity we want to be. A person who does the thing, or a person who doesn’t and does the other thing.

And you’ll find that if you feel exhausted, drained, burned out, etc. most of the time, it’s because you actually DON’T want to do the thing you’re forcing yourself to do.

And noticing this brings up all sorts of limiting beliefs, which we won’t go into here because that’s a long list, but recognize that if you’re feeling this way, you may be ready to stop doing it or choose something else.

I’ll gve you an example from my own life.

What does this look like?

I had to take a Day of Total Presence recently because I had set myself a morning and day routine but I just felt SO exhausted and drained of energy, that I didn’t end up doing ANY of it.

Through my own journaling I found that I was dreading the routine, but I couldn’t figure out why.

So I decided to take this day to reconnect with myself.

I did everything that day intentionally, I allowed myself the freedom to do whatever I wanted to do.

I ended up starting to learn a new language, starting to look up singing practices, and got rid of my entire routine that I had mentally chosen before this day.

I noticed what I did that day and when.

I then took THAT day and structured it as my new routine. Because clearly, that’s the way my energy was flowing best and having the most fun.

And low and behold — ALL of my exhaustion went away. I was no longer drained. I had energy and excitement to do the things I wanted to.

And ALL of this came from just one day of total presence.

I know that eventually when my energy shifts again, it’ll be time to take another day of total presence to figure out how to structure it next. It’s an ever-flowing process because you’re an ever-changing human being.

You aren’t the same person you were a year ago. And if you are, it may be time for a change or a refresh.

The bottom line

When you feel confused, you don’t need to tell yourself “I don’t know!” or “I can’t figure it out!”

Because yes, you can. It’s just whether or not you will ALLOW yourself to figure it out.

I’ve just given you three fantastic tools.

Put them into use and see how your life changes and shifts to be what you truly want.

So, have you tried any of these before? Or have you found something that helps you out of confusion that I didn’t add to this list? Let me know!

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Where to be Online as a Projector in Business

There’s so much contradictory information out there about “what platform to be on to succeed”. And let me be the first to say: it’s all bullshit.

While, yes, there are certain places more people are, such as Instagram and Facebook, that doesn’t mean you HAVE to be there too.

ESPECIALLY if your energy just abhorrs those platforms.

Great news! You don’t HAVE to be on them if you don’t want to be.

So where should a Projector in business be online? Let’s dig into it.

First, step away from the business rules you’ve been taught.

Most likely, you’ve learned business strategy from Generators or Manifesting-Generators. I know I did!

I was SO upset with myself that none of the business strategies were working for me.

I thought there was something inherently wrong with me.

People didn’t like ME when I used those strateiges.

Why?

Because it didn’t FIT my energy.

It was like trying to fit myself in a box that was already full. I wasn’t even in the box at all. So I just metaphorically carried around the heavy box hoping one day I might be able to fit inside of it.

Narrator: that didn’t happen.

In fact, it only got worse because I got SO tired of carrying around the box.

It was draining, exhausting, and it really took the fun and enjoyment out of being in the business world.

I was so discouraged!

How did it change for me?

I started listening to my intuition, and you should too.

When I finally started just releasing what wasn’t for me, when I finally just set down the box and walked away from it, I started feeling lighter.

I started feeling like I could move freely again.

I felt like a breath of fresh air filled my lungs.

It did take me a while to recover, with the bitterness I felt and all, but once I did: I felt free from the heaviness that held me back.

I questioned “Okay, if all of that wasn’t working for me, what will?”

I started doing the exact opposite of what I was being told.

And, not everything needed to be the exact opposite, but the point is that I allowed myself to FIND what worked for ME.

And that’s where you may want to start as well.

So, where do you want to be?

Let’s say you scrapped everything you’ve been taught about how “business is supposed to look” right now.

And you were just leading with your energy and where you DESIRE to be.

What platform would you choose to be on?

Do you prefer short quips and dropping words of wisdom quickly? Twitter or platforms similar to Twitter may be for you!

Do you like community and being able to chat with other people, be in the support groups, and just give advice (with detachment of course!)? You may enjoy platforms like Facebook groups, Reddit, or other places you can gather virtually.

Do you like writing longer posts and really getting crafty with your words? Blog sites like WordPress, Medium, and similar sites would be great.

There’s a whole long list of other choices too, but you get the point.

And while we’re on the topic…

When you start scraping everything you’ve learned, you may notice that the niche you chose in the first place just isn’t what you want to do.

Some more great news: You can pivot and change it.

Most people don’t allow themselves the freedom to change their minds.

But why would you rather be stuck in something that you hate JUST to say you “haven’t changed your mind”?

What’s wrong with changing your mind?

Absolutely NOTHING is wrong with changing.

In fact, people who haven’t changed in months (or even years, yikes!), are the exact people who are stuck and stagnant.

Now, I’m not saying that you have to change your niche every few months or years, I’m saying that change bring evolution. No matter what area of life it is in. And you have the 100% choice to change whatever you want, whenever you want.

And ANYONE who tells you differently is just upset because they want to change too, but they don’t have the courage to do so yet. So they’d rather shame you than make the change themselves.

The Bottom Line

YOU decide where to be in life. YOU have the power to change your situation. And only YOU can figure out what’s in alignment with your energy.

Starting with your business platform if you want. But you could start anywhere else in your life if that feels right.

So, where do YOU want to be? And what do you feel YOU need to change to live a better, more aligned, life for yourself?

Have fun!