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How I Use My Daily Journal

Using my journal is one of the best things in my morning routine!

Every morning when I wake up, I have a very specific routine that I do.

Since I’m a routine based person, it works much better having it planned out and more “strictly” adhered to.

Right after waking, I meditate with my boyfriend. We’ll usually throw on a 15 minute meditation that is slightly guided but not heavily visualization-based.

After our meditation, he gets the coffee started. We chat about how the meditation went and anything we experienced.

Then, he pours us our coffee and we sit and talk about all the things we’re grateful for. This usually lasts about 10 minutes or so.

I’ll take out my workbook, (for whatever I’m currently working on, like mindset, money blocks, etc.), to do the daily exercise.

Then finally, I’ll grab my journal and do whichever option feels right from the list below.

Here are just a few ways I use planners, journals, or notebooks daily:

  1. Gratitude
    • Whether I’ve already verbally said my gratitude items yet or not, writing them down bring a visual component that helps implement it a little deeper.
  2. To do lists
    • If I’m particularly busy, or I need to get a number of things done, I’ll write out my to-do list so it helps me stay on track.
  3. Productivity planning
    • This is super helpful if my day is jam-packed or I’ve been procrastinating. One thing that is always on the list though is breaks! I don’t know about you, but I work much better when I give myself ample breaks to rest.
  4. Brain dump journaling
    • This is very helpful when my mind feels cluttered. Getting everything and anything out of my head and onto paper alleviates the anxiety, worry, or stress that seems to come along with it. It’s been so nice to feel the clarity afterwards!
  5. Scripting
    • Scripting is like actually laying out what you want to happen. It can be as detailed or vague as suits you, but for me I tend to go into more detail. It just works better for me!

Having a morning routine has been a lifesaver for me, especially during quarantine! It’s one of the tools I’ve used to really cut down on my anxiety, in fact my anxiety is almost completely gone because of all the things I’ve done during quarantine!

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Manifestation: 3 Words to Stop Saying Immediately

Manifestation isn’t a one-size fits all type of practice; and with how many tools there are to use to enhance your manifestation practice, it’s more of a pick and choose what works best for you.

However, one thing we can all agree on is the top 3 words to stop saying immediately! And the reasons why are about to shift your entire perspective.

We’re going to count down rather than up here, because #1 is pretty shocking when you first hear about it.

Have thoughts about any of these? Have more words? Let me know!

So, without further ado, here’s the top 3 words to stop saying immediately:

3. “But”

The word “but” is used a TON in conversation. You probably heard one of these recently too. I can hear it now…

  • “I was going to go grocery shopping, but I was too tired.”
  • “I want to start a business, but I don’t have the time right now.”
  • “I was gonna go to the gym, but I didn’t have the energy.”

The list can go on forever.

The bottom line, though, is that “but” will always be followed by an excuse or a reason something stopped whatever was before the “but”.

Too tired? Plan ahead. Get some rest. Prioritize it.

No time? You mean to tell me that you didn’t watch Netflix for 4 hours yesterday?

No energy? Because of the lack of sleep, lack of nutrition, or lack of motivation? What really was it that stopped you?

No matter what way you try to spin it, “but” comes with a sense of lack.

A lack of sleep.

A lack of time.

A lack of energy.

A lack of whatever it is.

How do you feel when you say the word “but”? In a sentence, when you say it, it sounds like the sentence ended, right? It feels like the sentence ended right? It’s like a negative period with an extra tail spin.

“But” holds a negative vibration, and contradicts what you said at the beginning. Therefore, it negates what you just said.

What else am I supposed to say though??

Yes, yes.

Other than actually being upfront about why you’re really not doing the thing you said you supposedly wanted to do, here’s a few ways around the word “but”:

  • “It’s not a priority for me right now”

Saying it’s not a priority for you right now helps you get real with not only those who you’re communicating with, but at the core, you’re getting real with yourself. Don’t keep yourself in the dark. Show yourself what you’re actually prioritizing. You may just decide to do the thing instead. Or at least you’ll be better off energetically.

  • “And”

When you transform “but” into “and,” you change the entire perspective of the sentence. There’s no reason to be making excuses, honestly. The use of the word “but” doesn’t matter when you realize that you don’t need to compensate for who you are or what you’re choosing to do with your time. Without judgement, there’s no excuses. Excuses are for other people. So transform your “but” into “and,” and you may transform more than just the sentence.

  • “However”

If you were about to tell me “but that’s not polite” (see the irony there? hahah) here’s a different word entirely to decline politely, or at least to say it more politely. Think about it, sometimes you really do have other things going on. However, that doesn’t mean you need to use the word “but” to try and justify those plans. (See how I turned that irony around? I’m just full of jokes today)

Let’s move on.

2. “Want”

This one is sneaky.

Because it’s not just about changing it out for the word “desire,” since “desire” has a higher frequency than “want.”

As well as that, “want” has the energy of “I don’t have it yet.”

In Manifestation, when you’re manifesting something, you’re recognizing that you already have it, you just haven’t gained access to it yet.

When you use the word “want,” you’re actually distancing yourself from the thing you desire to manifest!

This is similar to the “when” and “how” in Manifestation.

If you worry about “when” it will happen, you’re acknowledging that it hasn’t yet happened and that you don’t have it yet.

If you worry about “how” it will happen, you’re again acknowledging that it hasn’t yet happened and that you don’t have it yet.

So there’s really two reasons why to stop using the word “want”

  • “Want” carries a low vibration. Think of “wanting,” it comes from the way they used to talk about lack or desperation. So to side-step that frequency altogether, substitute it with “desire” when talking about things you, well, desire.
  • “Want” is distancing you from what you’re manifesting. Instead, think “I have it; I just need to find a way to access it”

And now, the one we’ve all been waiting for…

1. “Hope”

We’ve finally landed on the sneakiest of all, “hope.”

It seems like an innocent word. And, to be fair, it’s used with the best intentions.

However, “hope” is an affirmation that you’re not putting the inspired action in to ensure whatever it is you’re “hoping” for happens.

“Hope” is a careless way to show care.

“I hope you’re okay” is more like “I’m sure you’ll be fine” rather than “how can I help you get better?”

It’s the careless way to show care.

Here’s another few examples:

  • “I hope it works out.”
  • “I hope I can do it.”
  • “I hope she achieves it.”

Now, you’re probably thinking “there’s nothing wrong with those ones,” and in some ways, they’re fine. Except I would only ever say it for something you really aren’t going to put any effort into.

Here’s the switch from trying to show you care to actually caring:

  • “I know it’ll work out.”

“Know” instills confidence. You could even choose a different phrase depending on the situation, like “how can I help?” or “You have the best team possible,” etc.

  • “I know I can do it.”

Again, reaffirming confidence. Or “I’ve proven I can do it,” “I’ve done it before,” “I’ve studied it. I got this,” etc.

  • “I know she’ll achieve it.”

Third time’s the charm, eh? Also, “She’s great at these things. She’ll achieve it.” etc.

After really mapping it out, it’s much easier to see why these words hold such power. However, when you’re manifesting, it’s time to rid your own vocabulary of them and see the shifts that happen in your life!

Whether that’s your manifestations coming to fruition faster, you’re confidence levels going up, your self-trust skyrocketing because you’re finally able to do what you want without feeling the need to justify your life, whatever it is!

Happy Manifesting!

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Top 5 Most Powerful Manifestation Methods

Manifestation isn’t always a part of someone’s first thoughts when they think about the future, their goals, or achieving what they want in life. When honestly, things come into your life so. much. quicker. when you do use Manifestation.

Don’t believe in Manifestation yet? Let’s talk about some real-life examples.

Some things I’ve manifested within a few days include:

  • A specific cup design from a certain large coffee chain
  • Someone calling me that I wanted to talk to, minutes after I thought about it
  • An opportunity to work with someone I had been chatting with for awhile and finally decided to try to Manifest it … #nailedit

Some things I’ve manifested within a month:

  • New clients
  • New views on my YouTube videos
  • The one I think we all want to Manifest more of… money! (And from a totally random, not even ever thinking it could’ve come from that, place. Thats an interesting story I’ll save for later)

Some things I’ve manifested within 6 months:

  • Specific apartments
  • Certain types of friendships
  • My Partner

The point is, it really works. And I can say it over and over again, but the way you’ll actually believe it? By doing it yourself! Let’s create some real-life results together.

I use some of these daily, some in my magical morning routine, and some sparingly. Let me know if you want more details about my routines, and I’ll make sure to write about it for you! My morning routine has honestly been the biggest game-changer of it all.

Here are my top 5 most powerful Manifestation methods. You can use them alone and choose just one or choose more than one; it’s up to you!

1. Embodiment 

  • Take the time to truly embody what you desire, as if you already have it.

2. Visualization

  • Visualize every detail you can of what you are trying to manifest. (It will help greatly if you also use your strongest sense for Manifestation from your Human Design chart! More info on that at the bottom.)

3. Meditation

  • When you have a clear mind, you will have a clear path to Manifestation. Add meditation into your Manifestation process for surprising results!

4. Scripting

  • Everyone loves to daydream about the future, right? What if you took those daydreams and wrote them down? That’s exactly what Scripting is. Taking your goals and dreams for the future and writing them down, as if they’ve already happened.

5. Affirmations

  • Reprogram your subconscious mind to allow yourself to dream bigger and receive bigger too. Our mind likes what’s familiar, and will keep us there so that we’re safe. Start training your mind for the reality you want, so that your new reality is familiar and you get there without resistance.

These are just a few of the methods that can be used to enhance your Manifestation process. They’re amazing, and they make you feel better too, so it’s a win-win! Remember: Methods of Manifestation are not the same thing as your manifestation process! You can use methods to help you manifest, but they aren’t required.

Wondering about your strongest sense for Manifestation from your Human Design chart?

You can look it up on any site that creates a Human Design chart for you. It’ll be called “Cognition” or “Strongest Sense.” It’ll be one of 6 types, Outer Vision, Inner Vision, Taste, Smell, Touch, and Feeling.

What do you want to learn next? Want to go deeper into methods and get into step-by-step explanations of how to do them or do you have other questions? Let me know!

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Choosing a Niche with Human Design

I’m sure you’ve heard the word “Niche” more than enough times already at the beginning of your business so far.

And beyond that, there are differing opinions everywhere too on whether you should or shouldn’t niche down.

But here’s the real scoop about Niches:
People think a Niche is a limiting box they need to fit into, but it’s not! It’s actually a way to help yourself get focused and get found by the right people.

And knowing your Human Design type can point you in the right direction.

Before we go any further, your niche could be either the audience you reach, the problem you solve, or both together. It depends on what feels correct for you.

For instance, life coaches can be niched down to a specific audience. The actual problem they solve is more open, while the audience they serve can be specific.

Or vice versa, you could coach anyone who needs help with a specific problem. The problem you solve can be specific while the person receiving the help is more open.

Or even a very specific niche using both sides can be something like teaching postpartum healing yoga to new moms. Again, it depends on what feels correct for you, but overall we’ll talk about which types should be more niched down and which types shouldn’t.

This applies to all types of businesses, like if you want to run a physical product store, a digital goods store, or whatever type of business you desire!

What you do will be enhanced by how you do it. And your type shows you how you best do what you do and how your energy wants to interact with others through you and your business.

Remember that no matter your type or energetic configuration, you’re able to build the business of your dreams and find your own version of success!

Niche by Type

Manifestors

You’re the trailblazer. Putting yourself into a niched audience won’t feel like freedom. While you’re waiting for inspiration, you don’t need to wait to find the right people. They will find you when you’re moving the collective forward! So instead of focusing on making content for your audience, let your niche form around you! Look instead at where you’re innovative. What area feels right for you to be forging ahead? Where do you see things are stagnant? Where do you want to be known for leading the new movement?

Generators

You’re likely going to have something that you’re passionate about from the get-go. Or perhaps you’ve always had a dream to pursue. Or maybe you’ve responded to something that continues to bring you enough variety while remaining the thing you love. Either way, niching down is the area in which you can thrive! Following the examples above, figure out whether you want to niche down in the problem you solve, the audience you help, or both. A specific niche can help you narrow in on what you want to talk about, instead of it feeling limited. And having a focused-goal may be just the thing to help you start creating the content you desire to.

Manifesting Generators

You’re meant to move quickly. It’s likely that you get bored around 18-24 months into a career. You tend to move through the challenges quicker and when there’s nothing exciting left inside a position, you’re ready for something else. Try to remain broader in the niche you choose. Give yourself the room to move and flow when your energy is ready. If you decide to niche down, remember that you have the ability to switch around what you do, and continue to make it fun for yourself!

Projectors

You’re the one who deeply understands systems and deeply sees others. If you continuously move around and don’t master one thing, you may later in life find yourself unfulfilled. You can always switch it up when you truly feel ready, however, give yourself enough time to master what you choose before moving on. You may find that once you master it, you do actually want to continue with it! Again, with the examples above, find the flexibility that works for you whether to choose a specific problem to solve, the audience to help or both. Give yourself enough time for deep periods of rest in between and make it something you do actually enjoy too! Burnout on a niche doesn’t mean that niche is wrong for you, you may just need time to rest and recoup your energy!

Reflectors

Your aura is so open that it’s not meant to fit into one box. You can shift, move, flow, and mold yourself to any situation that needs your attention. Play to this strength. Choose something broad and let yourself be guided where you need to go! Find the people that need your help, find the environments that feel open and exciting to you, and find the niche that feels like home.

Final Thoughts

Remember, Human Design can go much further into niching down than just using your type.

While your type is a great starting point, if you want to dive into the deeper aspects of your niche, (like the skills you naturally possess, how you help others, and whether you’re meant to teach or coach), check out the Niche by Design Masterclass. In less than 60 minutes, I break it all down and walk you through finding your niche according to your Human Design.

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The Simple Guide to Attracting Abundance

What You Should Do When Trying to Manifest More of What You Desire

A lot of the time, when you read articles or watch videos about how to manifest something into your life, it seems so simple that it’s too simple and then, you block yourself from doing it because there’s disbelief.

And mainly, this comes from not having enough action steps to take when trying to manifest. We’re so hard-wired to expect a step-by-step process that when something doesn’t have one, we don’t believe it.

So, for those of you who feel this way (note: we all did at the beginning! No judgement), here are 5 things to do when trying to manifest more into your life.

5 Steps to Attracting Abundance

1. Calm Your Mind

  • It’s easy to say, and challenging to do.
  • Meditation is the best way to get yourself started down this path of calming your mind.
  • When you listen to your mind 24/7, you don’t really get any time for peace and quiet. And while the mind is a great tool for noticing and observing patterns in your life, it’s not actually the one calling the shots. Did you know this?
  • We actually make decisions with our body (in a place that’s known as our ‘authority’ in Human Design) and JUSTIFY them with our mind. Yep. Not make them with our mind. Justify them with our mind. And when we actually start making decisions based on our mind and not our authority, we don’t flow smoothly through life. It feels more like a road full of potholes after a harsh winter in Michigan … on a heavily rainy day. Know what I mean?
  • So if you haven’t yet, go create your Human Design chart and find out what your Authority is so you can switch to some MUCH smoother roads on your path.

2. Appreciate What You Have Now

  • You have some sort of screen you’re reading this blog post from. Regardless of where or how you got to this post, you still got here. It’s the same with everything else you own, use, and have. Be grateful for what you do have!
  • Spend a few mintues every morning and every night, after waking and before going to bed, thinking, speaking, or writing down things you’re grateful to have. And truly feel it. Don’t let it become a passive, nonchalant thing. Truly feel it.

3. Be Clear On What You Desire

  • Finding clarity on what you desire is one of the surefire ways to help you actually manifest it, (this is also something that depends on your Human Design manifestation style, so take this with a grain of salt!)

4. Release The Attachment

  • Too often, this is where people get stuck. And, unsurprisingly, it’s usually when they’re trying to manifest money or something else that they deem VERY important.
  • When you’re manifesting, one of the key points is to talk about it and think about it as if it’s already happened (this is point number 5 below). Yet so many people obsess over HOW it’ll come into their reality, WHEN it’ll come into their reality, or WHERE it’ll come into their reality. And that’s not your job to know or figure out entirely. That’s the Universe’s control. Your control is about WHAT you desire and WHY you desire it.
  • Think about it this way, you have a phone, or a blanket, or a home. So you’re not worried about “when” you will have it – because you already DO. You’re not worried about “how” you’ll get it – because you already DO. You’re not worried about “where” you’ll get it – because you already DO HAVE IT. Take this strongly into consideration when reading and doing number 5.

5. Act As If You Already Have It

  • Going along with the example above, let’s take your phone. Let’s say you wanted to manifest a new phone. This is super easy once you get past all the mindset and beliefs blocking you because you ALREADY KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO HAVE ONE.
  • You know what it sounds like, what it feels like, what it can do, what you use it for and so many other things about it. The difference? You visualize using the NEW one instead of the old one. And yes, you can do this literally, but it may be easier to just close your eyes and visualize yourself with the new one altogether.
  • Ask yourself: What color is it? What does it feel like to hold it in your hand? Who calls you on it first? What’s that conversation about? Who texts you first? What does that text say? What is the background on it? What apps do you use the most? Human Design can actually help you with this area too, did you know that?

Human Design is actually one of the best manifestation tools I’ve found because it shines light on things that people get blocked on the most in their Manifestation process.

So if you want to have your Manifestation process be easier, incorporate your Human Design!

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What it Really Takes to Be an Entrepreneur

Before you quit your day job, make sure you’re ready for the road ahead.

My entrepreneur journey started abruptly.

I quit my job without warning, without a plan, and without knowing how exactly I was going to make money.

But at the time, I didn’t care. I was SO done with being burnt out, being taken for granted, and being relied heavily upon because I was one of the employees that actually did their job plus helped others do theirs.

I was exhausted, drained, and downright upset.

My lifelong dream was to be my own boss. Yet, at 25 years old, I hadn’t begun my entrepreneur journey yet.

I was facing my Quarter-life crisis, (yes, that really is a thing), and decided to immediately effect change in my life.

So I quit my job, moved out of state, and began a new life.

As an entrepreneur.

Fear set in when I realized I had no idea what to do.

I wasn’t a business major, I didn’t have a college degree or any “special” qualifications other than the multitudes of adversity I had already faced from a young age.

Overall, I didn’t know how entrepreneurs made themselves a success. I knew it wasn’t luck, but I didn’t know the road to take.

It seemed like I didn’t have a clear path ahead.

And after 2 months of dicking around, not fully committing to any one thing, I started looking for part-time work.

That’s when I learned the first lesson I hope to help you avoid.

1. Plan Ahead

Do your research now. At the first sign of desiring to become an entrepreneur, start looking for information for free online.

At the very least, start when you’re awareEven if that means today.

Being an entrepreneur isn’t as easy as some people seem to think. It’s actually MUCH harder than a traditional job.

At a traditional job, you already have the place you work at, the clientele who come to you, the systems that you work with, the operations that create efficiency, the pay scale that is reliable, and the ease of having to do only ONE job position.

As a new entrepreneur, you — and only you — are the one person doing everything.

Don’t leave the details to chance.

You won’t be able to accommodate for everything, however, you CAN set yourself up better by being more prepared with plans.

Here’s a list of questions to help get you started in your search:

  • What niche are you planning to start in? Do you know what a niche is?
  • Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to face failure after failure until you reach success down the line?
  • What platforms do you like? Which medium of content do you want to create?
  • Who do you want to help? Do you know anyone that could use your help right now?
  • What type of services are you going to create? Do you want to be product-based or service-based?
  • Who is your support system? Do you have friends, family, acquaintances, or groups of people to help support you along the journey?
  • How often are you going to learn and improve yourself to give your entrepreneurship journey a better chance at succeeding?

This list is not all-encompassing, but it’s a list I would’ve been grateful to have at the beginning of my own journey.

Start mulling these thoughts over, building your knowledge base, and planning for the time you start your journey.

Don’t wait forever to start, but jumping in right away isn’t always the best option. Find the place in the middle that works for you.

After I had to get a part-time job for 3 months, I was ready to start at it again.

I had done some research and learned some skills, I had a vague plan of action and began the 2nd attempt.

This attempt lasted longer than the first, at 4 months of solid effort.

This leads to the second lesson I hope to help you avoid.

2. Pride loses. Perseverance wins.

I was so sure that the 2nd attempt would be successful.

So sure, that I was blind to what was actually happening.

I didn’t enjoy the niche I chose. My audience wasn’t responding to the content I was putting out. I was drained, burnt out, and exhausted all over again.

But I begrudgingly held onto this attempt for as long as I could, before I watched it crash and burn.

I’m thankful it did though. I learned a lot during this experience.

I was able to compare my experience with this 2nd attempt to the 1st attempt.

I learned that I didn’t want to be in that niche, so I was able to pivot.

I learned that having pride was holding me back and keeping me blind.

I learned that I didn’t fully enjoy the platform I was on.

And little by little, I was revealing to myself what this journey would need of me more than anything else…

Perseverance.

It’s not something you’re born with. It’s something you choose.

You choose to continue forward; you choose to keep going when you’re faced with challenges, and you choose to forge on, even when you seem to fail over and over again.

Perseverance is by far the most needed trait of an entrepreneur.

Perseverance is what propels you to try again and again, even when it doesn’t look perfect.

Perseverance is what drives you to learn how to do something when you knew nothing about it previously.

Perseverance is what keeps the spark of joy alive in your heart when you set your goal and attempt to reach it.

The only way you could ever lose — or truly “fail” — is when you choose to give up altogether.

Keep going, and you will make it.

After the 2nd attempt, I got another job, this time a full-time one.

I had planned to only stay for less than 6 months, but 3 months in is when the big C hit in the USA in 2020.

Amid mass shutdowns, I was given the time to begin my 3rd attempt.

And my 3rd attempt is where everything changed.

This lesson I learned as I went, and thankfully it didn’t stop me in my journey, it merely shifted my path as I moved forward.

3. Pivot, Pivot, Pivot

If you’re a fan of the Friends series, you may remember the episode where Ross, Chandler, and Rachel are moving Ross’s new couch and he consistently says “Pivot! Pivot! Pivoottt!”

This is the word I want you to remember when you feel stuck on your journey.

Change is inevitable; and we grow through changes.

Pivoting in business is as common as bread at an Italian Restaurant.

Get as comfortable with change as you possibly can.

In the first few years of being an entrepreneur, there are going to be massive growing pains.

There are multitudes of skills you’re learning.

There’s knowledge that seems never-ending.

And there’s the possibility that what you choose to niche in, solve, or brand yourself as will change.

Let yourself change. Choose to pivot. Choose to shift your path instead of giving up entirely.

It’s likely that your first idea won’t succeed. Or your second. Or third. Or fourth. Maybe not even until your 30th.

It’s different for everyone. But knowing this upfront can help soothe your mind when or if it does happen to you.

For me, I failed over 30 times before I found my niches.

Yes, niches. Plural.

I’m currently the CEO of 4 businesses. I’m a creative entrepreneur, and I like variety. It took me a while to figure it out, but I did.

And that’s the point.

I allowed myself to pivot so many times that I found the things I wanted to specialize in.

I found the platforms I enjoy.

I found the niches that both light me up and allow me to help others.

All because I allowed myself to Pivot.

I failed fast so I could begin again fast. I attempted and attempted and attempted.

Did I doubt myself at times? Yes.

Did I have breakdowns and moments of despair? You bet.

Did I allow it to stop me? Absolutely not.

This is one of the reasons in the list above I included the question about your support system.

In my times of breakdowns, I consulted the people I trusted. Not for them to give me business advice, but for them to help me see my strengths again.

The entrepreneur journey doesn’t have to always be alone. Yes, it is you that is the sole person working towards your dream, but there are people ready to support you if you ask.

Entrepreneurship is a journey that is like nothing else.

It’s liberating, motivating, thrilling, and fulfilling.

And if you cultivate and incorporate these skills and lessons, you will reach success as an entrepreneur.

You can make your dream a reality.

So plan ahead in a way that feels correct for you.

Don’t let pride get in the way.

Persevere through the perceived failures.

Accept change as a standard in life.

Pivot when needed.

And, above all, never ever give up on your dream.

This article was originally published on Medium by Lillith Elaina.