This is going to be such an unpopular opinion that I almost decided not to write this. However, it’s SO important for you to know, just in case you’re like me.
Over the last 30 days, I’ve made a schedule for myself.
My goal was to write a blog post every day, even if it turned out to be a shitty post.
My personal daily structure was that I was going to allow myself to freedom to flow through my days, without forcing myself to do anything.
Needless to say, I didn’t write every day. BUT it’s not because of what you might think.
There’s so much collective pain and conditioning around “Resting” that it’s been labelled as “Laziness” when people take a day off, choose to NOT do something, or are sitting down to take a breather from life.
Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s a line between laziness and resting, but that line isn’t so black and white.
Mainly, speaking in Human Design terms, anyone without a defined motor center needs more rest than others.
And anyone without a defined Ego center doesn’t have access to consistent Willpower and Motivation.
What does that mean?
Just so we’re both on the same page, I have NO motor centers. And my Ego center is NOT defined.
So when I told myself for the ump-teenth time that I was “finally going to be consistent”, I was setting myself up for failure.
Consistency ISN’T in my nature. It’s not a natural thing for my energy.
So though I was able to crank out a few posts at the beginning of the month, gaining a 5 day or so streak, I was so happy and proud of myself!
Then day 7 happened…
And day 8…
On day 9 I posted again.
Then day 10 happened…
Day 11 I posted again.
Day 12 I posted again.
Then radio silence for about a week.
And it wasn’t that I couldn’t sit down and write. I had all the time I needed. I had the availability for it. And it’s not like I was sitting around just watching Netflix.
But the thing was, my energy had moved on.
I was focusing on learning instead.
My energy went from exporting to importing. For no reason other than that’s what felt RIGHT. That’s what came easily to me.
Consistency is an illusion
Honestly, only people with defined Ego centers are the ones that have the energy for consistency. It doesn’t take too much for the Ego center’s motor to be turned into “on” mode.
However, every OTHER center, needs the right conditions.
Inconsistency is labelled as “bad” or “lazy”.
“Sometimes you just gotta push through”.
Insert any other “hustle-mindset” phrases here.
But why do you want to push yourself to do something if in the moment you hate doing it right then and you have no energy to do it?
That feeling of no energy and force is going to show through in your work anyways!
So it’s like you force yourself to do it, only to have THOSE things that you did be the ones you’re needing to re-tweak or re-record or re-write at a different time because you weren’t happy with the end result anyways.
Why not wait for the creative wave to come back around and then you just create as much as you want to and SAVE some for the time when, inevitably, you’ll feel uninspired to do it?
Creativity IS a wave.
And choosing to celebrate the down time is JUST as important as celebrating the UP time.
I didn’t stop writing because I had nothing to say
I stopped writing because what I would’ve said wouldn’t have been as good in THAT moment as if I would’ve waited until the right time.
I have more than a handful of things that I’m doing/learning/creating at any given time.
I’m not a Manifesting Generator (someone who can and is meant to be multitasking). But I have a need for variety.
The difference between us is that I have a list of things to choose from in the moment, and I’m NEVER doing more than one at a time.
There are days I sing and learn French.
Then there are days that I don’t do that but I work on my business.
There are days that I go out.
There are days that I stay in and rest.
I learn in my free time. Brainstorm. Rest myself. And prepare myself for the next wave when my energy comes back.
I find that I create better, faster, more efficiently, and more happily doing all of this.
I never get bored. And even if I did, I know my list to choose from or how to find new things to try out.
And most of all, I don’t get BURNOUT anymore.
Be honest, how many times have you felt burnout?
Okay, now how often is that burnout linked to doing things you didn’t want to do in that moment?
If you haven’t discovered this pattern yet, pay attention the next time you feel burned out!
It’ll likely be because of things you don’t want to do (i.e. don’t have the energy for in that moment!), a collection of moments that you’re forcing yourself to do something you really don’t want to do, or even forcing yourself to do anything.
The ONLY times we get burnout from things we actually ENJOY are when we over-indulge ourselves in them. So perhaps that’s a thing for you too.
But, my point is, pay attention to where your burnout comes from and where it starts. You’ll be surprised!
And guess what?
You have 100% control of your life to CHANGE whatever is causing you burnout.
There are ways around it, ways to uplift you during it, ways to work with it, or even just the good-ol “saying no” works wonders as well.
It’s not “Batching”, it’s “Conserving”
I used to HATE the thought of batching content or batching anything.
But honestly, it’s the bees-knees — WHEN IT’S DONE CORRECTLY.
Again, just like we’re saying no to forcing in the moment, DON’T force yourself to batch.
Follow your energy. Batch during your Ups rather than your Downs.
If you have a creative wave with actually putting out content, create a system to help you automatically do that.
If you need to batch your budgeting or your tasks, do that.
Do whatever your energy leads you to do. Cut the things that aren’t necessary. And prioritize YOU.
My own consistency change
I’ve grown to enjoy my inconsistency.
Why are algorithms more important than my own health? They’re not.
I already know that I will create what I’m meant to create. So then why am I pushing?
There’s no deadline. And with an undefined Root center, I hate deadlines. They don’t help me at all, they just give me unnecessary pressure.
I follow what feels right. What flows right.
And if I need a day of full-relaxation, that’s not a bad thing. That’s SO helpful!
When I’m relaxing, I have some of my BEST ideas.
That’s a trend in my own energy that’s reliable. THAT is MY consistency.
As well as I’m a morning person. I like my mornings, I get a lot done.
It doesn’t matter what I’m getting done, I just get a lot done that I need to that day. That’s also MY consistency.
Just because it doesn’t fit the standards of “normal” consistency, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
And that goes for you, too.
So what’s something you’ve been burning yourself out about that you’re ready to release?
What’s a way you’re inconsistent that actually works WITH your energy?
And what are your ways of being consistent that matter to you?