When most people find out that they’re a Projector in Human Design, they get discouraged. We see the “Wait for the Invitation” as our strategy, and it’s like our worst fear is being realized: We can’t give advice to everyone because they don’t want it from us. And we need to wait for them to come to us for advice in a specific way.
If you’re like me, this caused you to have a mini ego-death.
Prefer to listen to the blog as you read along? Or take it on the go in podcast form? Listen to Podcast Episode 3, about Waiting for the Invitation.
Since we were kids, we just see everything that’s wrong in the world.
We see how it could be better — much, MUCH better.
With the low-level of energy we have (not as low as you might think, but that’s a topic for another day), we try to conserve it and save on time while at it.
And when we see others wasting their time or energy on something that could be easily tweaked to make it 10x more efficient, of course we want to help them and tell them!
So reading that we need to “wait for the invitation” and sit here and watch as other people all around us make so many mistakes… it’s like torture.
A bit melodramatic, eh? Perhaps. But it’s still true.
But what does “wait for the invitation” really mean?
Thankfully, it’s not as strict as it might seem.
“Wait for the Invitation”
First, what does this NOT mean?
- This DOESN’T mean you have to sit around doing absolutely nothing while you wait.
- This DOESN’T mean you can’t post on IG, FB, or other social media platforms about your ideas.
- This DOESN’T mean your opinion isn’t needed.
- This DOESN’T mean you have to wait for a formal invitation in the mail (though sometimes, for events, that may be a thing, but not for every situation)
If that doesn’t cheer you up a bit already, I know when we break this all down it will. So let’s take a look at what you CAN do and what this DOES mean.
1. You have been given the GIFT of time, energy, and selection.
Waiting for the invitation means that you can sit back and study the things you LOVE. You can master the things you truly care about. And have fun while you’re improving your skills as you “wait” to be invited.
Think about it, would you rather spend your time learning about the things that make you a “nerd” OR constantly be trying to find people who need your help out in the world every day, needing to promote yourself heavily, and talk about yourself 24/7?
My guess is that you’d rather sit back and enjoy the ride.
But then why are we SO engrained to take option 2 before we find Human Design? Because we were taught that if we didn’t “go out and get it, it’ll never come”.
But I have fantastic news for you. That belief is bullshit.
Your energy speaks for you, protects you from the people who aren’t right for you, and gives you the peace and solace to learn anything your heart desires.
2. You can 100% still put yourself, your work, and your passions out there so that people CAN find you when they need you.
Remember how I said you don’t want to be promoting yourself heavily 24/7? I meant in a sleazy, unaligned, yucky feeling way.
Now what you CAN do, is make sure that you are visible.
Which means to find what feels good to YOU and do it.
If you’re an artist, find yourself a platform to showcase your work. This could be Etsy, IG, FB, or many other platforms that are more niche.
If you’re a business constultant, post content on your platform of choice. Are you more of a writer? Perhaps start a blog. Are you a visual person? IG would be great. What about voice and video? Youtube and TikTok are amazing. There’s even podcasts or other voice audio apps.
Seriously, the world is your blank canvas.
What do you TRULY like to do? Do that. And do it in a way that really makes you happy. Because that is how you’re going to find your freedom, fulfillment AND success.
Sounds amazing, right?
If you’re still not yet convinced that being a Projector is a blessing, not a curse, let’s look at the last two points. I think they’ll change your mind.
3. You can still give advice WHENEVER you want to.
Again, remember how I said we aren’t supposed to go around telling people our advice because they don’t want it from us? That’s partially true. Here’s the loop hole:
- You can give ALL the advice that you want, as long as it’s GENERALIZED or SELF-IMPROVEMENT.
What does that mean?
Well you know how Jenny was telling you about her boyfriend issues and you REALLY wanted to tell her all the red flags about him? If you were to specifically tell her about HIM, without her asking your advice, it’s going to go unheard.
If you talk about YOUR OWN previous experience with the SAME red flags you’re seeing in him, without trying to “push” the information on her, then she’ll hear you.
Likewise, let’s say you are that business consultant and you want to create content for your audience. You CAN still create content in a GENERALIZED way.
So instead of pointing out one or two people, talk in bigger terms.
Or talk in “I learned this” ways. Self-examples and story telling from personal experiences.
Talking in generalized terms goes against SO MANY “business rules”, but if you test it out, you might realize it’s the best thing for YOU.
4. An invitation can be direct or indirect.
What does that mean?
A direct invitation is when someone blatantly asks you a question or specifically asks for your advice. Such as “Hey, can you tell me what [this tip] means from your post?”
That’s them recognizing you and asking YOU because they want to learn from YOU.
Another example from the Jenny scenario, is if Jenny was to straight ask you for your advice on the situation. “What would you do?” or “Do you have any advice?”
That’s a direct invitation.
The trickier ones are the energetic invitations. AKA the indirect invitations.
Let’s say you’re in a conference meeting and your boss asks the room for ideas. That’s an energetic invitation because he’s opening the conversation to anyone in the room.
However, it’s a weak indirect invitation. Meaning that even though he opened it up to everyone, that doesn’t mean you jump straight to your novella of ideas right away.
In this case, test the waters out and say one or two things. If you’re invited to share more or elaborate, that’s a direct invitation after an indirect invitation.
Another indirect invitation is how you feel around the person you’re talking to.
If you FEEL like you’re being seen and heard, without forcing yourself to be seen and heard, then you have an indirect invitation from them. Their ENERGY is open to you.
For instance, if you have friends that you hang out with, you already have an invitation with them (usually) and can openly give your advice where you see fit.
There are certain scenarios where you won’t have an open invitation from them, but that’s a topic for another time as well.
As you can see, “waiting for the invitation” is not as strict as it first seemed. It’s actually a blessing.
Because guess what? You GET to save your energy.
You don’t have to fix everyone around you. You can just focus on yourself and enjoy your life.
And when you DO get an invitation, it’ll feel SO much lighter, brighter, and happier within the energy of it.
So, what are you going to do now with all your newfound free time and the extra energy?